Community Agreements
The tenets of our relational foundation
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Hey there, lovely human!
I’m so excited you’re interested in joining me for this event!!!
Since none of us are islands, and all of us are impacted by others, it’s super important that we engage in these topics in community.
I want you to not only be able to enjoy and learn from the conversations with the Speakers, but also to deepen your experience through interaction with others who are here to do the same.
But, each person who joins us is coming to this from where they are at the moment.
That’s why it’s important to have a couple of guidelines for how you can practice relating through those differences.
You can read the Community Agreements below.
A virtual body liberation conference
I agree to practice Radical Kindness
Community Agreement #1
Radical kindness is the term I use to describe how I want us to treat each other–and ourselves–while in community together. What this means is that you are pledging not to be “nice,” which usually is the word we use when we mean that we’re being tolerant.
We’re not here to be tolerant. We’re here to be radical. We’re here to make a change in our selves, our cultures, and the world.
There is no time for nice or niceness. Those are ways that we cover over or bypass our actual feelings. Niceness causes harm.
But by being kind, we are allowing ourselves and each other to show up as full, complex human beings.
It means we accept the messiness of living in a marginalized body in a world obsessed with dominance. It means that you’re allowed to feel what you feel. It means you don’t have to agree with everything that is said and you can challenge it. It means that you can be whomever or whatever you are, unapologetically in this space.
And it means that you will give the same to everyone else who says yes and shows up.
I agree to practice Radical Consent
Community Agreement #2
Radical consent means that we respect each other’s sovereignty and choice. It means that, before we offer our opinion, suggestion, or comment, we ask the other person if they have capacity and desire to receive what we have to send.
This also means that if the other person says no that we respect their no. And I know that is the hardest part.
Every single one of us knows what it feels like to have our consent, sovereignty, and choice trampled by people who mean well, think they know better than us, or really, really, really just want to help.
Let’s use this space as a place to practice unravelling that habit. It’s hard work, it’s going to feel awkward and tricky, and you won’t be good at it right away–or maybe ever.
And that’s okay.
That’s why the agreement is to practice. It’s how we all will get better.
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